In China, westerners getting used to their conventions and custom will be extremely shocked by Chinese people’s activities in the same aspects. Truly it is mostly opposite to that in western world. All of these are caused by the different culture, history and tradition. Many western visitors to China have had a rude shock: Chinese conversations in public tend to be loud and highly audible - to western ears the conversationalists appear to be arguing. Arguments usually result not in especially loud speech, but in the use of curses and swear words, regardless of sex or age.

Not like westerners’ daily customs, in China loudness in dialogue is agreeable. So many times you can see and hear the loud conversation or negotiation in China, especially in agricultural produce market; it is easily found the loud dialogue between the retailers and customers. On some formal occasions such as the official reception, wedding ceremony and birthday anniversary, the invitees generally say many lucky words or lay it on with a trowel to each other. However, Chinese etiquette states that the best way to speak is softly and with one's head slightly bowed. 'Answering back' to those older is considered ill-mannered: the advice of elders should be accepted. Children who answer back or swear are considered bad mannered and their parents are held responsible. Chinese men speaking loud are not considered bad mannered: a woman speaking loudly is, and may have abuse and ridicule heaped upon herself.

Chinese greeting styles are also one part of Chinese interpersonal relations. Also they are classified into many different kinds in accordance with different people at the different ages. To the older, people generally formally show their respect with both words and gestures. Among strangers, acquaintances or at formal occasions the greeting (in Mandarin) 'Ni Hao' (or 'Nin Hao if much respect is meant) meaning, literally 'you good?' is used. The phrase 'Have you eaten?' is used as a more familiar greeting and testifies to the centrality of food in Chinese culture. Chinese culture considers it impolite to meet someone and not ask him/her to eat: he/she may be hungry! The Chinese tend not to greet those close to them with greetings that may bear a negative slant such as 'you're looking sad' or 'you're looking tired': this is deemed improper. In formal contexts, or when addressing an elder or person with high status it is considered highly inappropriate and rude to address the person by their given name. They should be addressed according to their designation, for example 'Mr Tang, Doctor Liu, Chairman Lee' etc. To those who the dialoguers are familiar too much, generally they do not say those greeting words when they meet, on the contrary they would tease each other or keep silent if either is unhappy. Business/name cards are ubiquitous in Chinese business and will almost always be exchanged upon meeting a stranger in such a context. The card should be held in both hands when offered to the other person: offering it with one hand is considered ill-mannered. Mostly Chinese business is done on the table. For business, the businessmen will invite their partners to a large and dear feast and then negotiate the business on the table when they drink and smoking. Besides all the important courtesies that only seen in China will be easily available.

Handshaking is the commonest manner to show greetings. No matter whom the other is, handshake is necessary when they meet if they do not see each other for a long time, despite their hated people. The traditional Chinese 'handshake' consists of interlocking the fingers of the hands and waving them up and down several times. This is today rarely used (except during festivals, weddings and birthdays of the elderly), and the western style handshake is ubiquitous among all but the very old or traditional. When greeting, a slight bow often accompanies the handshake, with the bow being deeper the more respect is being proffered to the person, for example an elderly person or someone of high social status. On the banquet, the seat setting is also very interesting and considerable, the highly-respectable people will be arranged to the seat backing on the north and facing the south to show their superiority and honor, and the young will seat opposite them. Besides when they begin drink, the young should stand up to propose a toast to the highly-respectable people or the senior. At this time, generally to return the courtesy, the highly-respectable people or the senior will also stand up with smile, and then the young will pose to be unhappy and try to persuade them sit down until they are successful, lastly the young will drink the wine up to the bottom.

 

 

 

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